ADDICTION: Desperate Parents, Desperate Teens

A forum and support network for parents and teenagers with depression, drug/alchohol addiction, cutting, obssesive/compulsive disorders

Saturday, July 16, 2005

Tough times and tougher teens

I am starting this Blog for the purpose of providing support for parents of teens who are having problems - which would include all parents! Seriously, I want to reach out to other moms and dads who are wrestling with issues like drug abuse, depression, cutting and suicide. You are NOT alone. Perhaps we can share our burdens on this road.

I read the book Reviving Ophelia when I taught high school and discovered the high number of girls who commit suicide every year. From the 16th century in which Shakespeare's doomed adolescent throws herself into the river to the 21st century classrooms and homes, girls are in trouble and often parents don't know how to help, or how to see the signs. In my daughters' case, the all-black ensembles - and that would include lipstick - and chains tipped me off just a bit. And note that was daughters, plural. But sometimes even knowing about your child's issues can't prevent one determined to make her own life-or-death statement.

Both of my beautiful, beloved, precious daughters made almost-fatal suicide attempts when they were 15, about four years apart. Both were in intensive care for a while. Both incidents changed our lives. Miraculously, they survived, their father, now my ex, survived, and are continuing to live and learn.

But I would not have even my worst enemy experience the abject terror of almost losing your child to a death by her own hand.

4 Comments:

At 9:38 PM, Blogger Catrina Dawn said...

My oldest daughter is 10 and it scares me to think of her doing some of things I did as a kid. She is such a great kid but I know that being a teenager wil not be easy for her. God Bless you and your children.

 
At 9:43 AM, Blogger Ophelia's Mom said...

Thanks! I was lucky to get through my teen years, so I get scared too, still. I'm not out of the woods yet.

 
At 11:46 PM, Blogger Jeffery Jansen said...

Hi my name is Jeff.
Did you Know...............
1 out of 5 kids has been sexually solicited online (NOT JUST GIRLS).
1 out of 4 kids has been sent a picture of naked people or people having sex online.
That May 21, 2002 there was the first death of a child linked directly to an Internet Predator?
Every one would love the world to be perfect and great but with the good come the bad. All we can do is hope for the best and be proactive in preventing the bad things from happening. I can tell you that we think we know what our kid are thinking and doing. Do not be one of the parents that says my child would never do that ( they are kids and will try things even when you tell them not to do it).
My little brothers and sister are a good example! They had it made........My father and stepmother had a little computer knowledge but not much ( at this time in the past the only things you had to really worry about was internet porn because chat rooms, messengers and blogs were not around or very few were) and they tried to do there best to keep them from going to internet porn. THEY DID NOT!!! They thought they did but my brothers were smarter than my parents and could erase their tracks.
My site http://www.internetsafety.webmenues.com has more articles on internet child safety software .
Please visit internet child safety software

 
At 10:25 AM, Blogger [Zen] said...

Hi! I'm a teenager and stumbled across your blog when trying to come up with a good name for my own blog, which is a guide on parenting from a teenager's perspective (teensonparenting.blogspot.com, if you're interested =]).

I think your blog is really awesome. Some of my friends cut, others are on drugs, and a brother of one of my best friends committed suicide three years ago. I sincerely hope that your blog will quickly become widely read. i know that I myself will be following it. Thank you for creating such a wonderful place for parents to support one another =] It helps the friends of their children too.

 

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